The Year of Self

Year of Self – It’s Not About You

We are nearly three weeks in to 2017 and the year of self is showing its true colors everywhere.  What’s most important during the next six months specifically, is that while this is the year of self, it’s not about you.  Yes, you will be a bit self-absorbed.  Yes, you will be working on finishing up whatever changes occurred last year.  Yes, you will grow spiritually as you focus on you.

It’s when we move from self to others that the situation changes.  While you are busy focusing on you, others are not.  They are focusing on them.  So while self-awareness is emphasized this year for everyone, it doesn’t mean that everyone around you is focusing on you.  They are focusing on them.  This is a year we all think the world revolves around us.  And while, yes, our world does revolve around us; our friends’, family, and acquaintances’ worlds do not.  Those worlds revolve around them.

Every year of self is a bit complicated, because as we strengthen ourselves, we also expand our sense of self and project that onto others.  As we grow, we feel our light brighten.  As our light brightens, our energy expands.  As our energy expands, we begin to connect with other expanded energies.  Yet, at this same time, because it is a year of self, our connections with these energies can become confused.  We may think that these connected energies are the same as ours, that because we have connected they are us and we are them.  Not true.  It is in these instances that we begin to project ourselves onto others.

In the negative, a year of self can produce a bunch of paranoia.  People are thinking about us.  People are talking about us.  People have it out to get us and pull us down.  Actually, people are thinking about themselves.  People are talking about themselves.  It’s not about you at all.  It’s about them.  This year if you believe you are being gossiped about, look at yourself and see if you are a gossiper.  If you believe someone doesn’t like you, take a look and see if you actually like them.  Usually what we don’t like about others is what we don’t like about ourselves.  Being aware can help change that activity in yourself, which then draws a different type of person to you. 

The best way to handle this year is to stop and think before you are sure that someone is trying to attack you.  Is it really about you, or is it about them?  Are they trying to hurt you, or trying to strengthen themselves?  During these next six months, people will not be strategically working to pull you down by bringing themselves up.  They may not even be aware that you are interpreting their actions in that way.  We all will be working to better ourselves.  Not at the cost of others, but at our own cost.  The intention is not to hurt you, it’s to better them.  Every situation has two sides, two energetic possibilities.  One would be to harm you.  One would be to strengthen self.  Learn to discern the difference, to notice where the intent is.  Because this year of self really isn’t about you.  It’s about them.